You Are Killing Your Happiness [SOLVED]

You Are Killing Your Happiness [SOLVED]

This is going to be a short one.

However… this perspective shift has recently changed my life.

Maybe it can do the same for you.

Earlier today I shared this message with my coaching students.

I felt like it may be too important to not publicize.

If this resonates with you, feel free to share or engage here.

Any support or feedback is highly appreciated.

Here it is copy and pasted:

You said you want to be successful right?

Then it’s a matter of “WHEN”

…not “if”.

As humans we tend to create unnecessary pressure on ourselves.

We constantly are measuring TODAY against the big end-goal we want.


It makes no sense.

We literally WON’T have that big goal today.

But each day we beat ourselves up for it?

We somehow think we should have more than what we have today…

When in reality what we have today is EXACTLY what we should have, based on what we have done so far.

That big end-goal has different efforts that are required for it to occur.

If you are here, you have most likely started those new efforts. That’s amazing.

However…. We need TIME for our new efforts to compound.

Eventually they will lead to the big goal we want.


Yet we keep expecting that big goal so soon… we somehow want and think we should have it already.

It’s like… insanity.

How can you stop it?


Here’s what I have shifted to recently, and hopefully it’s something you can do yourself.

This recent perspective shift has made me feel happier, more excited about the day & generally more productive.

Ready for it?

Here it is:

Measure TODAY… based on what you did TODAY.

That’s it.

Here’s how it works in action.

Let’s say your goal is $150,000 per year.

The FIRST thing you must accept is that you are not there now.

You won’t be there tomorrow, and probably not the next day either.

Just. Accept. It.

So rule #1 is to NOT compare the way you feel TODAY against that big $150,000 a year goal.

You aren’t there yet… so you will feel like shit making that comparison and measurement.

Instead, have a clear list of DAILY action steps.

These will be the daily steps you need to do, in order to hit those big goals.

Ex: Connecting with 5 new potential clients, taking care of your physical health, etc.

So now here’s what you do every day.

You look at that list of action steps.

(keep em’ simple)

You do those steps each day.

At the end of the day here is your ONLY measurement question…

“Did I do what I needed to TODAY?”

If the answer is YES…

You have permission to feel the same excitement you would when you hit that $150,000/year goal.


That goal is now INEVITABLE.

You don’t need to measure against having it or not… (IF ☹️)

Because soon enough it’s all yours. (WHEN 😄)

You are doing what you need to do today. That’s all it takes.

See how this takes away the pressure we put on ourselves?

Now, life isn’t always easy.

Candidly there will be days where you don’t complete your list.

While this isn’t something to celebrate… it’s also not something to beat yourself up about.

The way you handle an incomplete day is by:

a) Not frequently missing your list

b) Having a plan to fix it tomorrow

If you do that, you’ll be fine.

I find myself and individuals in this community causing unnecessary pain to ourselves.

These irrational measurements and comparisons will literally steal the joy from your life.

You will stop liking what you do.

You won’t be motivated.

Your relationships will suffer.

Your success will actually come down to “If”.

You probably won’t hit those big goals.

…and the worst part will be when you realize you are the reason for all of it.

It’s time to adjust the way we think.

Measure today against today.

That’s it.

Stop looking down the road and asking why you aren’t there yet.

You’re moving… you’ll get there.

If you are doing what you are supposed to do, the world is yours.

The challenge is showing up and making it happen everyday.

But if you can do that… you don’t even understand how amazing your life will be.

In short… your journey has all of the answers you are looking for.

The destination will just be a reminder that you never gave up.

Hope this makes sense and helps someone here.

End of copy and pasted message.

For my Medium readers… replace that “big end-goal” with whatever it is in your life.

Maybe it’s a better business, marriage, body, etc.

Those big goals are beautiful.

Just remember where they fall in your timeline.

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What is

Fill Your Books is an education platform that serves hair and beauty professionals.

This article is for the person who’s rightfully doing their online research.

The internet is like the wild-west… ya got people catfishin, scammin and everything else the mind can imagine.

So if you are a hair or beauty professional who is looking to grow, and you’ve stumbled upon “Fill Your Books” — take a few minutes to read this.

Here’s what will be covered…

  • What is
  • Who created it?
  • Should I trust these people?
  • How will it help me?
  • Where can I get more information?

Let’s dive into it.

What is

In short, it’s an education platform.

It is NOT a marketing company, a marketing ‘thing’, a social media ‘thing’ or any of that stuff.

Fill Your Books provides you with the education, coaching, tools, strategies, systems and resources for taking your hair or beauty business to the next level.

This is an important distinction to understand because there are a lot of shady “marketing companies” or individuals claiming they will grow your business for you.

Red Flag Alert: Someone telling you they are going to build your business FOR you.

To drive the point home let’s use a basic fitness example, and for the example you are hiring a personal trainer to help with your meals.

The equivalent of “doing it for you” would be the personal trainer chewing the food for you, and dropping it in your mouth like a mother bird does with its baby birds… LOL.

If you want something great in life you need to equip yourself with the right tools and resources… but ultimately you have to put in the work yourself.

Reference the old saying… “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man how to fish and he’s fed for a lifetime”.

Fill Your Books teaches you how to fish for yourself.

Some of the topics you can expect to master at Fill Your Books would be lead generation, marketing, sales, finances, entrepreneurship, leadership and more.

Who created Fill Your Books?

The founders are Jenna Puzzio and Kory Kahley.

Jenna’s Instagram: @JennaPuzzioHair

Kory’s Instagram: @KoryVonKahley

Jenna is a licensed beauty professional who stumbled into the Fill Your Books methodology shortly after building her own clientele.

Kory is a professional media buyer and digital marketing specialist.

Their combined skill sets and passion for helping others is what paved the foundation for their education platform.

You can learn more about their specific stories on their YouTube channel.

Should I trust these people?

Ultimately no one can make that decision for you, it’s something you must determine for yourself.

Here’s a few “checkboxes” you can use to cover some of the quick important stuff:

  • Do they have industry experience? Yes, Jenna has a salon business.
  • Can I actually get in touch with them? Yes, message either on Instagram and they will answer.
  • Do they have proof of actually helping other people? Yes, you can click here to see 100’s of their client success stories.
  • Has anyone ever met them in person? Yes, you can check out videos of company events on their website.

Those 4 questions will help you weed out 99% of the people just trying to take your money.

You can also book a call with one of their success coaches, it’s 100% free and you can ask more questions there.

How will it help me?

There’s a concept that has been adopted by nearly every majorly successful person on this planet.

That concept is, learning from the mistakes and successes of others.

Choosing to only learn from your own mistakes or successes is a one-way street towards burn out.

Working hard is important, but without working smart, you’re fighting an uphill battle.

When you work with Fill Your Books you get to skip the headache of “figuring it out on your own”.

You get to instantly tap into what is working right now for their most successful clients.

You get to avoid the wasted time and money on the things that don’t work.

This type of mentorship, when applied properly, can be the very thing that allows you to have that breakthrough-moment.

Again, it doesn’t happen with the push of a button.

However, if you have the proper support system with a strong commitment to yourself, you will succeed.

Fill Your Books gives you the support system and holds you accountable to doing what’s necessary for your goals.

Where can I get more information?

Here are a few places you can get more information:

[Fill Your Books main website]

[Fill Your Books Youtube channel]

[Fill Your Books free online training]

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